So, you’ve made the commitment to making some healthy changes in your diet and lifestyle. You’ve read the books, watched the documentaries, paid the gym membership, you’ve removed the ‘bad’ foods from your fridge and replaced them with fresh produce. THIS time you’re going to do it, you’re motivated, you’re psyched, nothing can stop you! Then a few days or weeks later that niggling feeling of doubt starts creeping back into your mind, like a thief in the dark, sabotaging your efforts and making you ask yourself if it’s REALLY WORTH ALL THIS ENERGY AND HARDSHIP. Sound familiar?
If making healthy lifestyle changes, losing weight and KEEPING it off were that easy and straightforward, heart disease, obesity and type II diabetes, all of which are considered lifestyle-related diseases, would probably not exist. Giving ourselves that pep talk isn’t always going to help us make lasting changes.
So what’s going on?
Often, the lack of both motivation and the will to stick to a new and healthy eating plan can have roots that go far deeper than we might care to imagine. And it’s these very roots in our subconscious that can govern our thoughts and actions of today. Call it what you want, an emotional block, an energy disruption, the point is that these blocks NEED TO BE RELEASED.
Protection
Have you ever thought that your lack of motivation might actually be there to protect you? “Protect me from what? I want to be more motivated!” I hear you say. Well that might be true on the conscious level, but on the subconscious level (which accounts for 95% of our thoughts) there might be fear of failure, or even fear of success, believe it or not. We are programmed to avoid discomfort, and if making lifestyle changes feels scary to you, well you’ve just found a possible reason to block any motivation.
Guilt & blame
Many people feel guilty about not being able to stick to a healthy lifestyle. It might be guilt towards themselves, to a spouse or partner, or even their children. With each step they take moving away from healthy habits, they blame themselves, quite mercilessly too I might add. We would never speak to another person with such cruel words and harsh tones, yet when it comes to doing it to ourselves we don’t think twice about it. This is just adding extra stress and more emotional blocks on top of the ones we’ve already created.
How can EFT help?
Not everyone wants to give up their favourite comfort foods or start a ‘tedious’ exercise program, even when confronted by their doctor and not-so-great blood tests and the prospect of having to go on medication to lower cholesterol, blood pressure or blood sugar. It would seem that scaring people into giving up certain foods or habits doesn’t work much either.
I believe that EFT is the missing link when we are contemplating or trying to make lifestyle changes.
EFT can change your negative mindset, reprogram limiting beliefs and rewire your brain, addressing the issues which might be contributing to these beliefs, habits and fears by freeing you from their grips and letting you pursue and finally reach your goals.
Think of a journey to a healthier lifestyle as a road system. When you are full of doubts, guilt and fear, the motivation roadblock police appear, blocking your way, and making you increasingly frustrated about the situation.
EFT lifts those roadblocks and sets the red traffic lights to GREEN, and before you know it you are on the Healthy Lifestyle Highway in cruise control!
Group sessions
I also offer online group sessions as they can be fun, inspiring and a lovely way of experiencing EFT with others. The sessions can have a general theme (for example, weight loss, food cravings, menopause) or each participant can be free to work on her own individual issue in the time allocated. Group sessions can be beneficial for several reasons:
Reduced cost because the fee is split between the people in the group.
'Borrowing benefits' - Even while tapping on someone else's issue, we can reduce our own stress levels.
Being able to share your burdens in a safe place with other women going through something similar or not, can be very therapeutic indeed.